Hello everyone! It’s me, Jumpy, and I’m back to share all the information that I have found while I searched the world to learn more about kids. Jump2it is all about kids obviously! And we love all kids, so today’s topic—bullying—is important to us. There are a lot of people out there talking about bullying these days. I realize I am not an expert with lots of letters behind my name, only a kangaroo, but I really want to get a jump on sharing some important things with you that I’ve learned on this topic.
All parents want to protect their kids from bullies, and don’t want to believe that their own kids might be the bullies. But consider this: bullying comes in many forms, from physical aggression to simply ignoring a kid or speaking an unkind word. By definition this means at some point, even if unintentionally, all kids have bullied another child. And sadly, kids sometimes learn bullying at home by watching how their parents act or react, or even how they talk about others, such as a neighbor or the person ahead of or behind us in traffic. Our attitudes, whether they be good ones or bad ones, are picked up by our kids. Now before you think I’m blaming parents for bullying, I’m not. I just think we need to be very aware of our behaviour when little ears are listening.
It’s also important to realize that bullying is usually an expression of what’s happening in the life of the bully and often has little to do with the child being bullied. Next time a kid at school, or after school activity, appears to be bullying other kids, try a different approach: invite that bully to be included in a function like a play date, a movie, an ice cream outing, or just to do something fun with your kids. Often, bullies are just acting out from the hurt in their own lives and really just need to feel loved and included. It is really important not to label a kid that has bullied as a bully, or that child will start to believe that is who they are and will act like a bully even when circumstance would not normally give opportunity. Kids will become what we speak into them. Tell a kid he’s a bad kid and he will probably not let you down—he will act like a bad kid. Encourage good behaviour with praise and positive affirmation and behaviour will follow suit. I highly recommend parents with children from all age groups watch the movie Wonder. This film really gives a new perspective on issues that are behind bullying and what motivates some kids to act in inappropriate ways. I really hope you’ll enjoy it and learn lots.
Stay tuned for my next blog post in May.
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